The Last Few Weeks of Pregnancy. . .

• Keep eating well and aim to drink at least 64 ounces of fluid  

 day  

  

• Taking extra vitamin C helps to strengthen tissues (especially  

good for amniotic sac and perineum); having some vitamin E  

on hand to take after the birth helps with healing.  

  

• Kegels  

  

• Baby positioning: check out spinningbabies.com; it is the best  

resource for what you can do physically to help baby find  

the optimal position for birth.  

  

• Emotional preparation: find some time to think, write, or  

talk about your fears. Fear can slow labor and increase pain  

perception, so it's best to work out any fears before labor  

begins.   

  

• Try to reduce other life stresses before the birth so you can  

focus on this huge transition.  

  

• Choose an "early labor project." If labor gets off to a  

seemingly slow start, it is helpful to have an easy craft to  

focus on as long as possible.  

   

• Set up your support network so you know who you can call if  

you need help in the first few weeks after coming home with  

baby.   

  

• Pamper yourself! 

BIrth Circle

A group was started in Wilmington about four years ago by a local doula, Carmen, who has since moved away, but the group carries on, hostd by the Cape Feat Area Doulas.The birth circle was inspired by the novel The Red Tent, which I wrote about in my last post. The book takes place in ancient times and tells how the women would gather together every new moon in the red tent to support each other through their cycle. When it was time for someone to birth a baby, she labored and birthed in the red tent, supported by her sisters or other women from the community. She would then stay in the red tent for one month, getting to know her baby, learning to nurse, and healing with the support of fellow women.

Today's modern birth circle is a sort of reincarnation of the aspect of red tent in which women support women through our childbearing. Today there is often a lot of fear surrounding pregnancy, birth and motherhood, but here is a place for us to gather to honor these traditions of life. We know that we are brave women and we respect the power of birth in all its forms. New mothers are encouraged to share your birth story in whatever way you choose. We practice listening during the story and hold any questions until the end. This is your time to be heard.

Besides being a great place for new mommies to process and talk about giving birth, the Birth Circle provides a gathering spot for pregnant women to meet local doulas and other moms, ask questions, and get insight into the birth process. 

In Wilmington, the Birth Circle meets the third Saturday of each month at 4pm, in the community room above Tidal Creek Coop, next door to the Yoga Center. All mothers welcome. No childcare is provided, but of course babies are welcome, too. 

The Red Tent

In 2002, before I had ever been pregnant, the woman who became my daughter's paternal great-grandmother recommended a book to me as a "must-read." As I am prone to do, I bought this book on sale, put it on my shelf, and assigned it to my ever growing and constantly evolving To Read List. I finally decided to read Anita Diamant's The Red Tent at the start of 2011. I am so hooked on this book right now! I haven't completed it yet, but this is one of those books that even between reading sessions, I keep rehashing the story in my mind, turning it over, thinking "what if?”

I am not going to retell the tale here, but all this time I've had this treasure sitting on my bookshelf, and had no idea that a major theme of the story is the narrator/ main character's journey to becoming a midwife. Interesting that as I begin the book, I am simultaneously feeling drawn to the same path. It is a strange coincidence that soon after I started visualizing myself as a midwife, imagining what that life would be like for me (because it is a life, not just a vocation), I started reading a novel about a girl who grows into a woman and follows her Aunt into the path of midwifery. Strange indeed. 

The Voice

There is a voice inside of you

That whispers all day long,

"I feel this is right for me,

I know that this is wrong."

No teacher, preacher, parent, friend

Or wise man can decide

What's right for you--just listen to

The voice that speaks inside.

— Shel Silverstein

Cape Fear Area Doulas

I finally prepared a bio for the Cape Fear Area Doulas website. You can read it below, and it should be on the website soon.

I believe every woman who desires a gentle birth deserves a doula. Our culture does not always make it easy to reach out for support, but this is changing. I have been trained through toLabor (formerly ALACE) to provide educational, emotional, and physical support to women and couples prenatally and in labor. I encourage women to be educated about available birth options so you can make the best choices for you. As your doula I will provide you with informative resources and support your choices. I will encourage you to trust your body and your baby as you grow in motherhood. 

I was raised in southeast North Carolina with a family of nurses and midwives. I began to foster my own nurturing mother spirit after birthing my daughter in 2003. When not attending births, I enjoy laughing with my family, creating art, practicing yoga and meditation, reading, and playing outside.

I have experience supporting birth in both the home and the hospital setting. If you desire an unmedicated birth I am happy to help you prepare for and achieve that. I chronicle my journey at www.happydoula.blogspot.com and can be reached at Nicole-Marshburn@hotmail.com or (910) 520-9456. 

Young couples, single moms, or same-sex couples welcome. 

Navelgazing Midwife Blog

http://navelgazingmidwife.squarespace.com/

I'm thrilled that I found this Midwife/ writer's awesome blog this morning! The video she posted today is also available on YouTube and is HILARIOUS. I read a few of her other posts, and her heart shines through the words she uses to explain her perspective. Great articles for doulas, midwives, mamas and daddies. I hope you enjoy it, too!


FEAR LESS
LIVE MORE

Moving to Blogger

I made the decision to move my Happy Doula blog from Wordpress.com to Blogger.com. I think the official address is now www.happydoula.blogspot.com. I was looking for a new template on Wordpress because I wanted three columns and had trouble finding something I liked. So I came over here to see what was available, and discovered how much simpler blogger is to use! Wow! Wordpress can probably do a lot more, and can be more personalized, but Blogger is made for people like me. I got more done with it in just about an hour than I could have done in two or three hours on Wordpress. I find that it is just a lot easier to move things around, the formatting just falls into place, and the blog looks neat and clean with minimal effort. Perfect! I moved all the posts over (I only have a few so far). I am going to abandon the comments, so to those of you who have left wonderful comments on my blog I apologize! But I hope you will continue to check in on me now and then. I love comments! They encourage me to write more. Thank you!

Featured in CFCC SBC September newsletter

My doula business was featured today in Cape Fear Community College's Small Business Center (SBC) September newsletter.  I met with the SBC's director, Doug Tarble, a few months ago to discuss with him the feasibility of going into business for myself. Doug listened to my ideas, was open-minded and cheerful, and provided me with excellent supportive feedback as well as some helpful business resources. Thanks Doug!

Unfortunately, I am not able to link to the article as it was delivered in an email newsletter, not published on the web. 

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